Remember, no touching while on the slippery slope
The Washington Post reports today on some nonsense at Kilmer Middle School in Vienna, Virginia. A boy has been disciplined for hugging his girlfriend in violation of the school’s “no touching” rule.
That’s right, no touching, of any sort. According to the rules, hugging your boyfriend or girlfriend violates the rules, as do high-fives, pats on the back, hand-holding, and so on. Hopefully, delivering CPR and the Heimlich Manuever are excluded, although it doesn’t appear to be that way.
From the article: “Deborah Hernandez, Kilmer’s principal, said the rule makes sense in a school that was built for 850 students but houses 1,100. She said that students should have their personal space protected and that many lack the maturity to understand what is acceptable or welcome.” At the end of middle school, you can be assured that they still won’t understand what is acceptable or welcome as they will have less experience interacting with others in a natural environment than is normal.
Consider what other similar bans could be instituted for similar reasons.
No talking: “Students should have their feelings protected from hurtful comments and many lack the maturity to understand what is acceptable or welcome.”
No writing: “Students should have their feelings protected from hurtful writings and many lack the maturity to understand what is acceptable or welcome.”
No looking at each other: “Students should have their feelings protected from disapproving and angry looks and many lack the maturity to understand what is acceptable or welcome.”
I’ve personally encouraged my daughter to consider attending an online high school instead of the public high school, but her main objection is the danger of losing out on opportunities for social interaction. Should rules such as “no touching” expand, the ability to have normal social interaction will go away and her main reason for going to the school will go with it. Why do school adminstrators believe children enter their schools still in need of learning academic subjects, but should already know everything there is to know about proper social interaction?
And to take that question down another path, why are our public schools pushing sex education at younger and younger ages and decrying abstinence education as ineffective, yet pushing some kind of “touch abstinence” answer to activities like handshakes?
Thanks go to Brian McDonald for steering me to this article. As a humorous aside, I think that an article about discipline over a hug could have little better name for the main character than “Hal Beaulieu”. His last name fits the article in a subtle way, much like one I noticed some time ago involving a policeman named Peter Couture.




